Dating for young teens
Even 14- and 15-year-olds can fall in love, Reardon says.
“To a child or teenager who is experiencing this, it is very real and very important,” she says.
On the other hand, she adds, “if you’re really dating, at some point you absolutely do want your parents to meet him.” Your teen doesn’t have to be dating or talking to anyone to have a date to the prom, winter formal or Sadie Hawkins dance.
That’s because most kids go in large groups and are couples in name only.
“Maybe among the younger girls it’s more important to have a boyfriend, but as we’ve gotten older, it’s just not as important,” she says.
Parents should try to stay on top of who their child is talking to or dating, and why — especially with younger teens.
s prom season approaches, it’s easy to conjure romantic thoughts of dating rituals we experienced long ago.
Perhaps the thought of all those sweet young couples slow dancing under paper streamers coaxes a nostalgic sigh or two. If you’re the parent of a child who has recently started middle school, get ready for a decidedly new dating scene.
To college students, hooking up means having casual sex.For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.Kids hook up with people they’ve just met, casual acquaintances and even friends. Jennifer, when asked if hooking up with a guy meant a girl had a crush on him, says dismissively, “Nope.” And Megan concurs: “It would seem very strange to me that a girl would think there’s something there” after a hookup.“We don’t have the vocabulary and we don’t have the experiences to be able to help.We’re learning this at the same time our children are navigating through it.” What follows is a teen dating primer to help your child — and you — forge the valley between child and young adult.
Megan*, a senior at Myers Park High School in Charlotte, says only about 20 percent of these relationships result in an official couple.