Dating a persian jew
Several generations and one American migration later, the essential values of khastegari still are entrenched in the landscape of Persian-Jewish dating in Los Angeles, with parental involvement replacing dating apps and bar scenes in the dating lives of many young Persians.
The custom is a source of amusement for many young women, who have coined the slang verb “khastegared” and trade stories with friends about awkward encounters like Delijani’s.
You are not the Sultan and whatever applies to her applies to you as well. 2) Flaunting your finances when wooing a woman, wining and dining her at the priciest spots in town, ordering the ridiculous magnum champagne bottles and showering her with expensive gifts only to later complain that she’s only with you for your money. 3) Her style is what got you noticing her in the first place, but suddenly you’re not feeling those mini dresses and shorts anymore.
You’re on a conservative trip and you expect her to cover-up.
Meeting a potential spouse’s family still factors heavily into the course of Persian dating, as young adults know how big of a role their in-laws will play in their married lives.
“Everyone always complains about not being able to meet people [to date], but here we have this built-in system for meeting someone,” Delijani said.
She’s not exaggerating when she says built in: It’s not rare for single Persian Jews to throw implicit “khastegari parties” with the intention of letting friends scope out potential marriage partners.
If her parents don’t fall for it, you’ll go solo anyways. 5) Her BFF just had a rough break up and she’s hitting the town, hard.
Suddenly the girl who used to help you resolve a fight with your lady is now being sidelined as a “bad influence.” If you expect your girl to drop her friend just like that then get ready to do the same for her.
For her part, Delijani said she doesn’t mind when adults try to set her up with their relatives.